Bishops disagree with Pastor Adeboye’s ‘no-cooking, no marriage’ advice
Bishops disagree with Pastor Adeboye’s ‘no-cooking, no marriage’ advice
A coalition of senior Christian clerics has disagreed with the General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, Enoch Adeboye, over his recent counsel urging men not to marry women who lack cooking skills.
Adeboye had given the advice during the May edition of the church’s Holy Ghost Service, where he warned that decisions based solely on physical beauty or social status could lead to regret, describing such choices as a “deep trap.”
The revered cleric emphasised the importance of spiritual discernment and domestic competence, cautioning men against being swayed by outward appearance. He also cited biblical figures such as Sarah and the Shunamite woman as examples of hospitality and culinary skill.
However, reacting to the remarks, the Ecumenical Synods of Bishops, Archbishops, Apostles and Senior Clergy dismissed the position as a personal opinion rather than a doctrinal standard.
Speaking with Sunday PUNCH, the group’s International Secretary, Osazee William, said cooking ability should not be a determining factor in marriage decisions.
He noted that both men and women could acquire culinary skills over time, stressing that character, godliness and industriousness were more critical considerations.
“Is it scriptural to reject a woman because she cannot cook? Even men can cook. This should not be elevated to a binding principle,” he said, adding that marriage choices should be guided by broader values rather than domestic abilities alone.
William further argued that modern economic realities had reshaped family roles, with many women serving as breadwinners and having limited time for household responsibilities.
He maintained that individuals lacking cooking skills could easily learn or employ help where necessary, warning against placing undue emphasis on one attribute.
Earlier in his message, Adeboye also advised men to reconsider marriage plans if a prospective spouse insists on a lavish wedding that could lead to debt.
He cautioned against excessive use of cosmetics, including artificial hair, eyelashes and nails, urging men to look beyond physical appearance in choosing a life partner.
The differing views have since sparked debate within religious circles over the balance between traditional expectations and evolving social realities in marriage.
