You owe your virginity, sexual purity to God, not man!
By
Temilolu Okeowo
Dear Ma,
I started following your articles recently and I thank God I have found a mother who could tell me the truth. Mummy, truly I’m blessed to know you and your teachings. Thank you so much ma for your teachings – you always say the truth.
My growing up was very rough – not a good for me. I left my parents at age 11. I lived with someone as a home help. I was not privileged as I lacked a lot of things while growing up. I have been trying to find someone who could care. But many of them only used and dumped me. I was so deceived because I wasn’t taught. I also met a guy then at Awka who invited me to his home and raped me. I am 26 now. I wish I knew what I know now.
This 2023, I started attending church programmes with seriousness. I told myself I didn’t want to have sex anymore. And I have since maintained it. Now, a guy is asking for my hand in marriage, but I am worried for myself, because if he marries me and feels disappointed that I’m not a virgin especially as he sees me as a church girl, it will be a big shame for me. Please ma, I made up my mind that I won’t sleep with any man outside marriage anymore. Help me if there’s something I can do to tighten up. I love your teachings. Thank you so much, ma.
Sexual purity gives you super spiritual immunity!
A virgin should be treated like a deity!
I sincerely thank God for your life and know that God is pleased with you as you have decided to honor His temple (your body); 1 Cor. 6:20, and He is going to surprise you. I don’t know about tighteners and even wonder why you have to bother yourself and worry about what your future husband would think after you have surrendered to God who controls the affairs of men and the heart of men.
I keep getting messages over and over again from a good number of girls who were sexually abused as kids, and some of whom grew up seeing sex as an indoor game and got into it but keep wishing they had their virginity intact. God Himself knows too many of you were not properly prepared for the world’s perversion and its influence on young and innocent souls. Also, no one asked to be raped either as a child or an adult! All you need now is what God thinks about you and not what someone you don’t even know yet would think. Funnily enough, if you are a virgin and He’s not on your side, you might as well be ready for trouble. After all, there are technical virgins with very filthy hearts leading sinful lives. So, why don’t you get Him on your side by living a completely holy life devoid of any form of sin and let Him prepare you on a journey of spiritual reformation. If you make your future partner an idol in your heart and get carried away with what he would think about your lost virginity rather than concentrating on God and letting His power overhaul and fine-tune you, you will end up with the wrong man!
What matters now is a committed relationship with the one who created you and who exclusively knows and can control your life’s trajectory. You will be amazed at what he could do to a dejected, rejected, bashed, battered and scorned life! That’s why I keep emphasising on you being supernatural through the power of God. Your brain, mind and soul are saturated with the spirit of God. You are too joyful with your conversations with God, what your future would bring and ever basking in the wondrous glory of God. Your divine identity makes you a super blessing to whoever you come in contact with. Stop worrying about what your husband would think on your wedding night as long as you don’t lie to him. Interestingly, a lady who had been sexually active but abstained a few years before marriage told me how amazed she and her husband were on their wedding night after their first sex. The man in great shock professed he couldn’t believe her state and loved her the more.
Besides, when the man that God pairs up with you arrives, he simply melts at the presence of God in your life. Period! He doesn’t want to know what happened in your past. Remember the scripture says, ‘He who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favour from God.” (Proverbs 18:22). So why fret if you are standing right before God? I congratulate you on your rebirth! Your life will never remain the same again. However, if your virginity is intact and you are reading this, please save it for marriage. SAVE IT! SAVE IT!! SAVE IT O!!!
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