Who is your Friend? By Banji Alabi Esq

Who is your Friend? By Banji Alabi Esq

The Power of True Companionship and How to Find It

In a world where relationships are often measured by convenience, the question “Who is your friend?” cuts deeper than a casual greeting. A genuine friend is not the one who exposes your weaknesses for the world to see, nor the one who walks away at the slightest provocation or in times of challenges , uncertainty and conflicts . A true friend stays close when the road gets rough, lifts you up when you stumble, and celebrates your victories as if they were his own.

“There is a friend that sticks closer than a brother.”Proverb 18: 24

Ask yourself: Am I my friend’s friend?

Whether the friend is a spouse, sibling, colleague, neighbour, parent or child, the test of friendship lies in loyalty, respect and self‑lessness.

A Roadmap to Identifying Excellent Friends

1. Consistency– Look for people who show up the same way in good times and bad.

2. Intent– Do they support you when you need it, or only when there is something to gain?

3. Confidentiality– A trustworthy friend guards your secrets; they do not turn them into gossip.

4. Reciprocity– Healthy friendships are a two‑way street; giving and receiving should be balanced.
5. Respect for Boundaries– Good friends honor your limits and encourage growth, not control.

How to Become an Excellent Friend
– Practice Empathy– Put yourself in the other person’s shoes before you judge.
– Keep Confidences– Treat every shared secret as sacred.
– Show Up– Small gestures— a text, a call, a coffee— speak louder than grand promises.
– Celebrate Others– Genuine joy for a friend’s success multiplies your own happiness.
– Be Reliable– When you say you’ll be there, be there—no excuses.
– Give Without Expectation– Offer help simply because you care, not because you want something in return.

The quality of our friendships reflects the quality we bring to them. Choose wisely, love deeply, and become the friend you wish the world would give you.

Who is your friend?_ Let that answer guide you to stronger, truer connections—today and always.

True friendship isn’t about convenience—it’s about loyalty, understanding and the willingness to be there, even when it’s hard.

You will succeed